I get the opportunity to work with a variety of people who are in various stages of relationship change.  Some are looking for new romance, some to go to the next level of their current relationship, some to save a relationship, and some who are in mourning and grieving the loss of a relationship.  Much of our initial conversations are about the object of my client's desire, frustration, or sadness --- the other person.  Ultimately, the conversation always has to come back to the client themselves, to take a look at the client's responsibility, patterns, fears, and obstacles.

This is a powerful place to visit because there is very little anyone can do about another person's thoughts, feelings, or actions, but there is a great deal that we can do about our own.  It is from this powerful place that new perspectives, growth, and change can enter into a person's life.  Time and again, I have had the experience of watching a client change something in his or her personal life, only to have it followed by a change in their current relationship status.  It is fulfilling, satisfying, and inspiring to watch this experience unfold.  It is re-affirming to see the power of personal choice change the landscape of interpersonal relationships.

I am consistently reminded of this possibility in my own life on a daily basis.  Thank you to my clients and friends who constantly teach me the power of change that comes from the inside out.